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November 21, 2016

Why Men Hate Going to Church

Filed under: History,Religion — Steve Ruis @ 2:49 pm
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There is much to read now about falling church attendance. What most people do not realize is that church attendance has been far, far lower in the past. In the 1950’s it was several times higher than it was in the early 1900’s. So, most people’s references are from the recent past in which there was an extraordinarily high level of church attendance, possible the highest in the history of this nation. And, we have a long history of not attending church. Even George Washington did not like to attend church and was criticized for that. (George Washington!)

Now that we have some perspective, why would it be the case that men would not like going to church? There is even a new book out with the same title as this post (that title was stolen from that book and was the inspiration for this post; I have not read the book). Off the top of my head I can think of quite a few reasons why men would not want to attend church.

On top of them all is the sense that most Christian churches are peddling: that the attendees had racked up offenses that no secular authority can forgive (they are called sins and by their definition, we are all sinners). Not only that, but we must beg for forgiveness, a forgiveness that it is made clear that we do not deserve. We are granted divine forgiveness based upon grace, that is a gift given freely to someone undeserving. We are told we must bow our heads when we do this, a posture that is so subservient that adopting that posture robs one of much of their physical strength and sensory acuity (which is why the rich and powerful have demanded it for forever it seems). We must humble ourselves to acquire the forgiveness we do not deserve based upon sins that we did not commit.

Why would a man not want himself a bunch of that, gosh?

Of course, there are variations. If one is a Catholic, one can receive a church-based “atta boy” for even quite grievous transgressions, by going to confession, which at least is a private humbling ceremony and then by performing some rite which can be mumbled at high speed without a lick of conviction. No one in church authority can tell whether or not you are sincere in seeking this forgiveness.

Why would a man not respect that?

Why would anybody?




  1. You are so right, 1) men don’t like to beg for anything, 2) men don’t like to take the blame for something they did not do 3) men don’t like to be subservient and have to bow down to others and 4) men are very sceptical of anything that is being offered for free.

    All of these tactics just put us in a defensive position and real men did not evolve to be passive and defensive creatures, it’s against our nature.


    Comment by Gushopper — November 21, 2016 @ 3:03 pm | Reply

    • These are all control mechanisms, too. The thing I really don’t like about most religions is they are trying to control our thoughts, telling us which of our thoughts are good or bad. We don’t explore these ideas in religion, we are just asked to swallow them.


      Comment by Steve Ruis — November 21, 2016 @ 3:17 pm | Reply

      • That and the fact you are pretty much required to check your intelligence and curiosity at the door. If church was a place where the asking of questions was encouraged, rather than discouraged, I might give it a try. If nothing else to irritate the pious.

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        Comment by shelldigger — November 24, 2016 @ 9:46 am | Reply

  2. If I recall correctly, the 1950s had something called Blue Laws – you’d be hard pressed to find anything that wasn’t church open on Sundays. Networking on Sunday at church meant rubbing elbows with the local politicians, if you needed a favor from the treasurer or wanted to have a discussion off the record with the sheriff, the Church was where you could just so happen to meet because of the social obligation there was to attend. Let’s not forget that men usually wore suits, ties, and hats. Women wore dresses, heels, gloves, jewelry, and hats as well. So you could show off your social status that way, the fact that you knew people at church who were local big shots by their first names. The message of the church wasn’t really different back then, but it was before something called complementarianism began doubling down on gender roles – so men weren’t told how unmanly they were and women weren’t chastised for being unfeminine. Now today the same message is going on, but they call it feminized and of course no man worth his salt would be the masculine presence surrounded by such sissified worship.

    Or perhaps, as I suspect, it’s just all excuses. People – men and women – just don’t like going to church and they’ll list everything from the color of the carpet (is that a feminine shade of burgundy or a masculine hue of maroon?) to the one worship song they hate (the feminine one, all the masculine ones are okay, apparently) as the reason why. You should read why men hate going to church, because more accurately, it’s: “Why, real, true, masculine men hate going to church and why the fake feminine men are the only ones who do go to church don’t really count as men.”


    Comment by Jamie Carter — November 21, 2016 @ 4:05 pm | Reply

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